“Start every day with a smile and get it over with”. W.C. Fields

Have you been ‘conditioned’ to believe that getting a career and working forty hours per week at something you don’t really like, but pays the bills, is as good as it gets. Then join the masses.

But it’s also true that most of us want our lives to be important; we want to know where we are headed and we demand something deeper than ‘just a job’.

When we leave this life we want to have achieved something worthwhile, and not felt that we had wasted our precious time here on this weird and wonderful planet.

But are you not fortunate to have a occupation, any occupation? Well, no, I think this is a furphy. You will be dead one day, so why not aspire for the biggest dream that turns you on? Why squander all those 9 to 5 hours doing stuff that turns you into a negative, whining, dull victim? Better off dead!

Is it conceited to believe you can have the life of your dreams? That depends who you’ve been listening to. Who is making up this game of life? Your parents? Your friends? Your teachers? Your history books? Life is there for the taking…provided that you are ready to pay the price. No danger, no quest, no disappointment, no success. You decide what you want your life to become – if you dare.

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So why is it so hard to transform one’s life for the better?

Here are seven major fears and barriers that stop people going after their dream life:

You don’t know what you would like because you thought it was not an significant question or you have accepted other people’s directions without any thought. When we are young, our sense of self and our level of self-esteem are dependent on our parents and teachers who decide for us what is excellent and bad behaviour and what rewards and punishments go with this behaviour. So we learnt how to gratify our authority figures by becoming the kind of individual that they liked.

The majority of people are followers or reactors – People who stand out have to be brave and risk ostracism, or face emotional and monetary ruin. This is too much ‘perceived pain’ for too little ‘perceived gain’. Note the word ‘perceived’. The actuality is mostly very different but we tend to imagine the worst.

We live in a highly specialised workforce and once you get on the job (just over broke)-mortgage-buy stuff-pay debts-watch TV (no energy for anything else) – mow the grass – do the housework – you know the rest – treadmill, it is almost impossible to motivate yourself to switch careers or do something different.

Fear of failure. You fear ending up in the poorhouse, this fear kicks in as soon as you think you might be better off doing something else and that’s as far as it gets.

You want assurance about the future but of course no-one can give you that certainty so you settle with the devil of a job you know (or the devil of a partner) and resign yourself to a life of sacrifice and sameness and mediocrity.

The misconception that we must find the ideal resolution before we commit to anything else, and so we keep looking for something in heaven rather than something right in front of our noses.

You can’t be bothered, it’s all too difficult, pass me another _____ (fill in the blank).

When we’re used to to existing this way, it may take a shock (a family or health crisis) to wake us up and sadly this is what it takes before a person resolvesthat ‘enough is enough’.

But what then?

Another quandary emerges from the utter specialisation of the rat race. What/ Who / Where/ When/ How do I transform my life? All you know so far is what doesn’t work! How do you find the right path to your desired future? What do you actually want?

There must be a way out of this mess?

There is. Discover how to construct your future. Become a life artist.

But it’s not for everyone. Turning one’s life around and becoming a designer rather than a reactor isn’t painless or swift. Discovering or finding what we should do with our lives is one of life’s mind-boggling dramas. It is a never-ending process of self-discovery and should be prized for the level of complexity involved.

You will have your knockers. “What a dumb idea!” “It won’t pay the rent.” How impractical.” “He’s off with the fairies again.”

But it’s not impractical and it won’t put you in the poorhouse. (You will think of the worst that can occur and have strategy B ready…won’t you?).

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